Eligible Introverts is coming soon!
Introverted and looking for love in NYC? I'm trying to help you find your people.
I’ve had several sign-ups from folks in RL and Hinge (yeah I’m doing some of my marketing on the dating apps, can you believe it’s working?) in the past few days. Thank you for your patience and willingness to explore a new community! 🐈
A lot of you have asked me what Eligible Introverts is going to be. I’ve had several techy and big-idea discussions with friends – imagining this space as a personal matchmaking platform, dating app, or DM chat. While all those ideas were super fun to think about, they all required building a dating-app-style platform. The exact thing that I am trying to move away from in my own life.
On the other hand, I’ve been attending a number of dating support-style events in New York lately. I liked the energy in those rooms, but many of them featured dating influencers, “advice”, or mindful sharing about dating issues. As an advice hoarder, it was a space I felt comfortable in. But I want to actually do something.
As Elvis said, a little less conversation, a little more action! Did you know Elvis was an introvert? Off-stage, he was quiet, private, introspective, and preferred intimate settings.
I recognize that “introvert” is just a label. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle. There’s also a lot to be said for developing your blind spots and encouraging growth by putting yourself out there – something I’ve tried to explore for the past 5 years in New York. I’ve gotten a lot better at talking to people and introducing myself to strangers. Like Elvis, I also have a performative, artistic side. But at the end of the day, I’m just more of an introvert. And that’s ok!
So, what will this space be? Here is what I am imagining:
Future posts will feature introverts who are single and looking to date in NYC.
I wan this to be a fun Q&A with hot takes, toxic traits, mindful habits, “what are you looking for?”, and pictures that are actually indicative of what people are like. Imagine a dating app profile without the absurdly low character limit and boring generic content. I also think it will be cool for me to showcase other folks, instead of solely relying on them to talk about themselves.
If someone is interested in the poster, they can contact me and I will set them up. No contact info will be shared publicly.
I may also occasionally post about community events and updates about how things are going. And maybe we can even have some IRL events!
Anyone is welcome to join. I’m looking at you, extroverts! But only introverts will be featured.
For now, I’m working on getting 100 users. I already have a couple folks lined up to be featured. I am going to print out a bunch of fliers about this space and hang them up around New York.
Remember when meeting people from the internet felt indie? I want to bring back some of that DIY Web 2.0 ethos that got lost in our corporatized swipe-spaces of 2025. There will be some friction in all of this, but that’s intentional.
Dating has become a Prix 5 menu with a character limit and pre-selected options. I want it to be a Dostoevsky novel where you don’t know what’s going on until 400 pages in. Less Facebook. More poorly-contrasted Myspace theme with user-embeddable HTML.
Ok, maybe that’s a bit much. But we won’t have character limits here, I promise.
More to come!